In my introductory sessions, I have to tell the client that I am not a therapist, nor should coaching be confused with any sort of therapy. There are some similarities to therapy, however, and the one similarity I’d like to address today is the matter of commitment to the relationship.

When someone engages in therapy, they enter the relationship with the understanding that it will likely be long-term. After all, you can’t get to know someone and all their issues in one hour-long session. That hour session can be a pretty good start,  especially if the client is open and honest. But there are so many facets to a person’s life and personality (and more often than not, multiple issues that intertwine) that it would really be unreasonable to believe all of one’s problems could be solved in one initial meeting.

Any relationship that is going to be beneficial must grow and deepen over time. Coaching is a relationship like any other. And while the coaching relationship begins and develops in order to help you accelerate your dreams, there are no shortcuts to learning the skills that a good coach will teach you toward that end. A client shouldn’t expect to present a problem to the coach and have it be solved in one hour. The coach can get you started on the right path in an hour and give you strategies to implement in the future, but a one-hour intro session is not coaching. It’s rather like eating a bit of pepperoni and calling it pizza. While it’s certainly part of the pizza, it isn’t the whole pie.

When I begin a relationship with a client, I am committed to the long-term. I am going to stay with you until WE (you and I, together) decide that you don’t need me anymore. But you have to give it a chance. That’s why I insist that new clients sign up for, at the very least, an initial 3 months — so that you can see for yourself at the end of that term how far you have come. So that you can see for yourself how you have benefitted from being coached, and how the strategies we have implemented together have brought you that much closer to realizing your dreams. Most clients benefit so much that they stay an average of 9 months; appropriate, as we are certainly “birthing” a new you. Growth and change don’t happen overnight.

In the same vein, one shamanic journey won’t answer all your questions. One hypnosis session won’t make or break a habit, or instantly change an ingrained behavior. These techniques are simply some of the tools I use in a blanket coaching practice that is focused on complete wellness for the whole person: body, mind, and spirit. Not bits and pieces of you, but ALL of you. You are a complicated person with many facets, and I want to help you live in balance. I’m not going to allow you to shortchange yourself. That’s the reason I’m not big on offering “ala carte” services. I would much rather coach you in a consistent way, using every skill I have at my disposal, so that you have a greater chance of making the changes that make the difference in your life.

Coaching is a partnership. I partner with you to help you get from where you are now to where you want to be. Your long-term commitment to the partnership is one crucial element of your success.

Happy Mother’s Day,

CLM

I was compelled to share this with you. It was forwarded to me, and I am passing it along.

- CLM

A SPIRITUAL CONSPIRACY

On the surface of the world right now there is
war and violence, things seem dark and chaotic.
BUT calmly and quietly, at the same time,
something else is happening underground
An inner revolution is taking place
and certain individuals are being called to a higher light.
It is a silent revolution.
From the inside out. From the ground up & outside in
This is a Global/ Universal /Cosmic operation.
A Spiritual Conspiracy.
There are sleeper cells in every nation on the planet.
You won’t see us on the T.V.
You won’t read about us in the newspaper
You won’t hear about us on the radio
We don’t seek any glory
We don’t wear any uniform
We come in all shapes and sizes, colors and styles
Most of us work anonymously
We are quietly working behind the scenes
in every country and culture of the world
Cities big and small, mountains and valleys,
in farms and villages, tribes and remote islands
You could pass by one of us on the street
and not even notice
We go undercover
We remain behind the scenes
It is of no concern to us who takes the final credit
But simply that the work gets done
Occasionally we spot each other in the street
We give a quiet nod and continue on our way
During the day many of us pretend we have normal jobs
But behind the false storefront at night
is where the real work takes place
Some call us the Conscious Army
We are slowly creating a new world
with the power of our minds and hearts
We follow, with passion and joy
Our orders come from the Central Spiritual Intelligence
We are dropping soft, secret love bombs when no one is looking
Poems ~ Hugs ~ Music ~ Photography ~ Movies ~ Kind words ~
Smiles ~ Meditation and prayer ~ Dance ~ Social activism ~ Websites
Blogs ~ Random acts of kindness…
We each express ourselves in our own unique ways
with our own unique gifts and talents
Be the change you want to see in the world
That is the motto that fills our hearts
We know it is the only way real transformation takes place
We know that quietly and humbly we have the
power of all the oceans combined
Our work is slow and meticulous
Like the formation of mountains
It is not even visible at first glance
And yet with it entire tectonic plates
shall be moved in the centuries to come
Love is the new religion of the 21st century
You don’t have to be a highly educated person
Or have any exceptional knowledge to understand it
It comes from the intelligence of the heart
Embedded in the timeless evolutionary pulse of all human beings
Be the change you want to see in the world
Nobody else can do it for you
We are now recruiting
Perhaps you will join us
Or already have.
All are welcome
The door is open
~ author unknown

Hey, Everyone,

Okay, I’ll admit it : I’ve been lax in regard to keeping you all informed through the blog pages. It’s hard to sit down and write a blog when you don’t have time. My life is very full, and I wouldn’t change that for the world, but it makes for sporatic writing time.

That being said, I have some exciting news! I’ve recently joined the staff at the Roseheart Center in Fayetteville, NY. My office will be open and ready to accept face-to-face clients in March. More information about Roseheart can be found here: www.theroseheartcenter.com .

I’m very happy to have found a place that seems to align very well with my goals for Black Horse Consulting. I know that Spirit is truly at work in my life. I found Roseheart while looking for hypnosis training, and had no idea that there was office space available, too. One thing leads to another, and sometimes you just have to go with the flow and trust that inner guidance. I think  great things are going to come out of this relationship.

Of course, I will still be accepting telephone clients as well, so no worries!

I do intend to keep a more regular blog and newsletter, because I have so much to share with you all! Stay tuned.

Be Well,
CLM